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An Advice to Marry Young: If only I’d snagged a Princeton man …

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Epigraph: “And those who say, ‘Our Lord, grant us of our wives and children the delight of our eyes, and make us a model for the righteous.” (Al Quran 25:75)

Editor’s note: Donna Brazile, a CNN contributor and a Democratic strategist, is vice chairwoman for voter registration and participation at the Democratic National Committee. She is a nationally syndicated columnist, an adjunct professor at Georgetown University and author of “Cooking With Grease: Stirring the Pot in America.” She was manager for the Gore-Lieberman presidential campaign in 2000.
(CNN) — Susan Patton kicked up a firestorm with her letter last week to the editor of The Daily Princetonian urging female students to find a man to marry before they graduate because “the cornerstone of your future and happiness will be inextricably linked to the man you marry, and you will never again have this concentration of men who are worthy of you.”
If only the Princeton alum’s advice had come out 30 years earlier when I was in college, perhaps I could have avoided the costly mistake of focusing on what makes me come alive and then pursuing it for a living. Perhaps if I’d focused instead on nailing down a man by the time I was 22, I could be going to cocktail parties and co-opting my husband and children’s successes, bragging about them as if they were my own, rather than being forced to talk about the current state of politics or what we can do as a society to engage the next generation in the struggles of today.
Perhaps, if I’d had Ms. Patton’s wisdom and foresight about what really matters in college, I wouldn’t have taken so many pesky classes, and instead concentrated on designing my hair, makeup, attire and personality to create the perfect man-catching machine.

Perhaps it would have all worked out exactly as Ms. Patton implies — the perfect house, kids, husband and future. And yet I’m skeptical. I made a lot of stupid decisions in college; I’m really glad the choice of life partner wasn’t one of them. How many people, do you think, could choose a tattoo at 22 years old and still be happy with it by the time they are 50? Let’s be generous here: maybe a quarter of all people? And tattoos don’t even talk.
Choosing a life partner requires a maturity and self-awareness that I can’t imagine more than a small fraction of college students have. I know I didn’t. Not only that, but people change. Who you are at 22 is not who you will be at 35, and in my experience, the decade following college is the interval where the rate of change is the greatest.

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The Muslim Times’ Editor’s comments
Marry young and the couple evolves together. The feminist advice has only helped Europe’s inability to maintain its population and work force and has only helped the cause of immigration.

Thank you feminists for your biggest support, by getting 40-50 million Muslim immigrants or their children, in Europe. Islam would not be what it is today without you!

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2 Responses to An Advice to Marry Young: If only I’d snagged a Princeton man …

  1. Rafiq A. Tschannen

    April 3, 2013 at 10:22 pm

    I definately agree with this article. I have seen among (very few) Ahmadies that some marry young and then husband and wife continue to study together. Seems great to me. Marrying young does not mean that one has to stop studying. May Allah be our guide always! (and the coming generations as well…)

  2. K T Shamim

    April 7, 2013 at 8:34 am

    Marry young. Yes. Gives time to mold personalities together. But … that is my personal opinion.